Self Dating.
A book · A practice · A transformation
Shankar Kumaran with the front and back covers of Self Dating.

A practical system from Indian wisdom for the one relationship nobody taught you, the one with yourself.

Is this you?

You look fine outside.
But something inside feels off.

This book is for you if something feels off, you are stuck between intention and action, or you feel overloaded by modern life.
Three things in one

A book. A practice. A workshop.

The idea

Your phone runs
an OS. So do you.

School taught you the apps: coding, marketing, communication. Nobody installed the system underneath. Self Dating installs it.

See how the Self OS works
You upgraded every app except yourself. Install Self OS.
Why we stay stuck

Two patterns run almost every problem.

Pattern one

The Fox ManoBhaava

The fox could not reach the grapes, so it called them sour. We blame the outside when the real answer is within. "The exam was tough," or "was I prepared?"

Pattern two

The Loop Trap Train

One quiet thought becomes liking, then craving, anger, delusion, and finally a decision you regret. Seven stations, mapped 5,000 years ago in the Bhagavad Gita.

The three Swaftwares

Three Swaftwares to run your Self OS.

Clarity

SwaBodha

See clearly. Absorb to observe, instead of missing the elephant in the room.

Action

SwaDharma

Choose right. The right action, at the right moment, with the right intensity.

Stability

SwaBhava

Stay calm. Respond from a steady ground instead of the emotion of the moment.

Not just dating others. Start dating yourself.

See clearly. Choose right. Stay calm.

SwaBodha · SwaDharma · SwaBhava

We love the Self most. And we know the Self least.
Self Dating book on a desk.
What's inside

A lot,
by design.

  • 296 pages, 8 parts, 26 chapters.
  • 40+ stories and real-life cases.
  • 30+ original ideas you won't find elsewhere.
  • 13 citations from 8 classical texts.
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Proven in the field

17+ years. Real rooms.

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The author

Written by Shankar Kumaran.

Yoga Psychologist, Corporate Trainer, and Founder of Wayam — Life Education Institute. Six years of Gurukulam study, an M.Sc in Yoga Science, and a TEDx speaker who has spent 17+ years taking Indian wisdom to every doorstep.

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An invitation

Have you ever actually dated yourself?

If yes, welcome back. If not, it is the perfect time for a first date.

Buy 'Self Dating' now