Self Dating.
The book

This is not just
Dating.
It's Updating.

A practical framework for the most important system you will ever operate: your Self.

Sit with yourself. Most people never do.
Not affirmations. A diagnosis. Then a repair.
What it is

A diagnosis,
then a repair.

Most books motivate you for a moment. This one shows you where your problems actually live, then hands you the tools.

  • The Self OS — how you see, decide, react, and change.
  • The Fox ManoBhaava — why we blame the outside.
  • The Loop Trap Train — the spiral from a thought to regret.
The contents

26 chapters. 8 parts.

Part One · The Problem
1If you set the alarm at night, who is snoozing it in the morning?
2Why is the tiger and cow doing morning meditation?
Part Two · The Three Swaftwares
3SwaBodha: Absorb to Observe
You missed the Elephant
4SwaDharma: Confusion to Conviction
Decisions are like Constipation
5SwaBhava: Reaction to Response
Accidents happen in a Microsecond
6Swaftwares are not the problem. Installations are.
7Most lives feel like a beautiful pizza, just upside down.
8Swiss Knife for Real Life: War Zone or Play Zone?
Part Three · The 3 Self Dates
9Update to Upgrade: The Self Dating Guide
10Three Modes for All Moods
Reset, Recharge and Restart
Part Four · The Reset Mode Self Dating for Emergency
11When to apply an Emergency Brake?
12You can't correct your own exam paper
1310 > 31,560,000+
14A quiet lion is more dangerous than a barking dog
Part Five · The Recharge Mode Self Dating for Energy
15Dawn and Dusk: The Energy Drink
16Daily one drop creates a Flood one day
17If you give, you will get
18Right leverage is the only Shortage
Part Six · The Restart Mode Self Dating for Evolution
19Falling is part of Climbing
20Intelligence is Intense usage of Common Sense
21Learn from the past, lean into the future
22Remembering the Goal is the Real Gold
Part Seven · Ready for the Challenge?
23Knowing Chocolate is different from Eating Chocolate
24The 21-Day Self Dating Challenge
Part Eight · Journey from AI to SI
25So… Who Are You Now?
26Self Dating Is the New Survival Skill
By the numbers

Here's what's inside.

Self Dating by the numbers: 296 pages, 8 parts, 26 chapters, 51K words, 50 illustrations, 40+ stories, 30+ original ideas, 13 citations from 8 classical texts.
The practice

Three modes for every mood.

Reset when you are overwhelmed. Recharge when you are drained. Restart when you are stuck.

The three modes of Self Dating: Reset, Recharge, Restart.
Reset Mode: pause and presence, response not reaction.
Recharge Mode: gratitude and direction, daily fuel.
This is not just dating. It's updating. Available in paperback and ebook.
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